You only have to do a quick Google search to realise the extent of the third baby conundrum. Do I go for a third or stick to two? Is three a crowd? Is three children much harder work than having two? I’m going to be honest, I was one of the Googlers. For a long time we debated the issue. We spoke about it on holiday, we spoke about it on the few date nights we had, we even spoke about it in raised voices during a trip to soft play hell. But still we couldn’t decide.

Pushing our luck

You see having three children felt a bit like we were pushing our luck, being greedy – I mean we already had two healthy kids didn’t we, maybe we would be better to just be thankful for that? But that nagging broodiness kept getting the better of me (to be honest, I’m not even sure why – I hate being pregnant and I’m not overly keen on newborns). Eventually we decided that we knew we wouldn’t regret having a third (I mean, nobody can look at their child and actually regret it right?) but chances are we might regret not doing it. So we went for it.

Throughout my pregnancy I carried on googling. My time was spent flitting between excitement and sheer panic. What had we done? How was I going to get three kids out the house? In the car? Take them anywhere on my own? I had visions of me holding a baby under one arm whilst chasing the 3 year old round Tescos and then losing the 5 year old and having to get the lady on the tannoy involved to publicly announce my hopelessness. (To be fair, the Tescos vision wasn’t too far off, except the 5 year old has yet to actually get lost; no, I’ve become that cringey mum who screams like a fishwife down the aisles with either threats of blackmail or pleading bribery).

Three is the magic number

So, this is for all those people still googling. Having 3 children is hard work. Harder than Google tells you. Going from 2 to 3 is not easier than going from 1 to 2, its carnage. There is always someone who needs something from you and leaving the house takes on a new level of stress (like it wasn’t bad enough before). Oh and the night times. Some nights my house actually feels like a circus (without the popcorn – although I have been known to snack in the middle of the night I’m up for so long) we are up and down so much.

HOWEVER it is also brilliant. It’s fun, it’s messy and it’s loud. Watching the older two with their baby sister has often brought a tear to my eye (in a good way this time- although I’ll admit to sliding down the wall crying on rough days, but this is the positive paragraph so I’ll leave it there!) the relationship they are forming is truly adorable and the older the baby gets, the more the bigger girls delight in her, celebrating her accomplishments with the same (completely over the top) joy that we do. Equally seeing the baby’s face when she sees her sisters upon their return from a day at School or nursery melts my heart. The thought of them all growing up together (no doubt sharing tips on how to get one over on me) also makes me smile inwardly.

Three children

So in hindsight, would I make the same decision again to have a third baby? Absolutely. It’s bloody hard work but if you think having one child is rewarding, times that by 3 and then some. One word of advice though: Brace yourself!

Kayleigh X

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26 Replies to “Third time lucky? The Great Third Child Debate

  1. I found that having a third child was the easiest, I put it down to the fact that because I knew what I was doing by then I was more relaxed and sonwas baby #mudpiefriday@_karendennis

  2. It’s different for different families and my mummy couldn’t imagine coping having three but it also sounds very rewarding. We’re part of 3 is the magic number but that’s our family unit x #bloggingclubuk #bloggersbest

  3. Love this hun!! We are debating too. I have a 4 year old and an 18 month old and I’m not sure about a third. I think we would regret not but like you said CARNAGE! haha. Thanks for sharing with #bloggersbest x

  4. I’ve only got one and I’ve already informed my husband that we just have to have three because one is so amazing! Will be relaying the positive parts of this to him to help my case! Thanks for sharing. X
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  5. Aaaw I love this. We had our 3rd baby last year (accidentally) and wow, its a game changer, Like you say its carnage but I love it. I love the older two looking after their baby sister and I love that there is never a quiet moment in the house – till their in bed anyway! I’ll never regret our little-added bonus!! #fortheloveofBLOG

  6. My bestie has two kids the same ages as mine and had a surprise third – your post made me smile so much as it was literally like hearing her describe her house! We have talked and googled and debated and concluded, that it probably isn’t for us, but there will always be a part of me that wonders how crazy/fun a third might have been.

    Thanks so much for linking to #coolmumclub

  7. We’ve just had our second baby, she’s 12 weeks old and the last. I can’t imagine myself with three at all. No doubt I’ll become broody in a couple of years and I’ll make sure I don’t read this post when I do or I might end up having one…if i can persuade the husband! I’m aiming for a dog when I’m 40, that’ll be my third child – ha ha! #BloggerClubUK

  8. Lovely honest post! Three has always been my magic number but after lots of drama with number two I have a lot of persuading to do with himself. #dreamteam

  9. I really loved this post! We’ve been thinking about whether we could manage a third, I’m still not sure but I can’t stop the broody urge to just go for it! Thanks for sharing with #fortheloveofBLOG

  10. This is a difficult decision I have five children so well past that Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

  11. What a lovely post Kayleigh. It sounds like you have got the perfect balance for your family. This will be fab for anyone googling ‘shall I have another’. It’s always a big decision to add to your family. Thanks so much for joining us for the #Dreamteam xx

  12. I couldn’t even perceive having 3. I never really wanted children – couldn’t see myself with them, then decided I’d regret not trying. Then I presumed we’d have 2. But one is plenty. It changed our relationship too much and not in a good way, I’m now on medication which means I can’t get pregnant as it’s too dangerous for a baby, and the OH jokes that we’d never have a second. Now I couldn’t see myself with 2….but 3 would never have even been a debate. #coolmumclub

  13. AAh, as the youngest of 3 girls… I completely understand the trials and tribulations of 3 kids! I loved growing up as the youngest of 3… I also know that we put my mum through hell and back so I know first hand what *darlings* 3 can be! 🙂 Thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofBLOG x

  14. I’ve only got the one and that is plenty for me! I think some people are made for more children, but I am almost definitely not. I can imagine the joy it brings though! #BlogCrush

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